Looking Deep Within

So, now, one more of the faltering double-dating guy is caught. What does it mean to any of us and what does it matter? It's a big name and to some it seems that much more important to mud-sling, now that the 'flings' have come to light. Is it because one is 'having all' that he/she should not 'cross-over' the fence? Or, similarly, should the 'not have' category be allowed to make the transitions over the fence of morality, every once in a while?

Where, when, who and why does one need to draw a line and remain sane? Should one be pardoned as one speaks of 'doing soul-search' after repeated indulgence? For that matter, repeated or for just once, when all trust and feeling is betrayed - can there be any justice at all? For all involved?

I agree, its a matter of personal choice. Which way you want to go, coupled with the 'circumstances' life creates for you - isn't it a matter of one's very personal persona? Temptations. Sufferings. Mental agony. Lies. Above all, the self-forgiveness... doesn't it all lose it's very meaning when 'selfishness' is all that mattered in moments of desire?

We are all human. We tend to commit mistakes while making decisions, while investing our time, effort, money as well as emotions. However, of what value is the emotional bonding if we are not truthful to the first ties itself? What's truly wrong in an extra-marital affair? The timing? Yes, so long as you are bound to one emotionally (including the ones existing within the other person's mind and heart and you being aware of the same) - how can you go beyond? Isn't it - knowingly hurting? Doesn't it make grounds for emotional trauma?

Now, you may ask, how can what one get hurt by what one doesn't know? Here's an eye-opener for you. Most of the truly committed people do know when vibes change. The very presence of that 'someone else' doesn't need a magnifying glass or a witness or hearsay. It's there and 'felt'. That's the whole crux of what we call 'togetherness in a relationship', isn't it? No, it isn't possible for one to completely comprehend why, how and because of why does the love pulls itself away, slowly and steadily. Before a big dent, there are several moments of self-realization, which we may choose to overlook or ignore. There may not be any turning back from relationships gone sour. Still, we don't un-plug when we are no longer connected. We tend to continue, being plugged, but not in sync, hoping somehow something within either of us will change - and we would be like before. Whose fault is it when something like this happens?

Why create a persona that you can not sustain?...